Saturday, January 30, 2010

Success story with Screw Cupid as a prop!

I received an email a few days ago from a male fan who discovered Screw Cupid in his local bookstore, read it in one sitting and immediately tried out SC's techniques on a trio of attractive women browsing in the bookstore. He used Screw Cupid as a prop, and approached them:

Male Fan: Hey, can I ask you guys a question?
Trio of Hot Girls: Sure. What's up?
Male Fan: I need to buy a present for my sister, and I'm thinking about getting her this book on how to meet guys (pointing to Screw Cupid). How do you think that would go over, from a girl's perspective?

This was his description of what happened:  "I stood back and watched in utter fascination as the three of them began an involved, animated Q&A amongst themselves and between me and them on the subject of giving a girl a book on dating advice. It was not awkward or forced, and I barely had to say anything to keep the discussion going... the hardest part--initiating and sustaining a conversation with a group of opposite-sex strangers in a public place, was a breeze."

Props to my male fan for taking the initiative and trying it out, and I'm so glad to hear it worked so easily and effectively!

PS - If anyone has a success story from using SC's techniques, I'd love to hear about it. Email me anytime at

Yours in dating success,

Sunday, January 24, 2010

"Screw Cupid" Kindle Edition... here!

I own a Kindle and am a wholehearted convert. Coming from someone who when she moved had 40 boxes of stuff, 30 of them books, it's nice to know that I can get my fix with new titles without having to feel guilty over a tree being sacrificed for my habit.

Check out Screw Cupid in Amazon's Kindle store here.

Yours in eco-conscious reading,

Thursday, January 14, 2010

UK Edition Release Date Announced - 5.27.10!

The official release date for the U.K. edition of Screw Cupid, titled "The Sassy Girl's Guide to Picking Up Fit Guys" is May 27, 2010! It is published by Right Way, an imprint of Constable & Robinson Ltd., and will be available in the U.K., Australia and New Zealand.

You can pick up a copy on

Yours in hot accents,

Monday, January 11, 2010

Compliments: Free Prozac

I was walking on the street a couple weeks ago, and this girl coming the other way stopped me, pointed at my shoes, said they were awesome and asked me where I got them. I shared my insider knowledge of this great local shoe place, and she and I both walked away smiling.

That weekend, I was at a party and saw this girl from across the room with the best hair I've ever seen in real life. We're talking shampoo ad hair - thick, wavy and enviably red. It was gorgeous. I recalled how nice it was to have the girl on the street compliment me, and decided to pay it forward by sharing how awesome I thought hair girl's hair was. So, I did. As it turns out, she was fresh out of a horrid break-up, had just gotten out of the salon with a haircut and color she hadn't tried before and although she liked it, was nervous about it. When I, a random girl a party, told her it was fantastic, she said it made her day. Her happiness was immediate and obvious, and made me feel great. We ended up talking for twenty minutes, decided we needed to hang out - and now I have a new friend. A lovely chain reaction started from a random girl on the street paying a compliment.

My point? Next time you see someone wearing something, doing something or having something you think is exceptional, let them know. Paying heartfelt compliments to strangers is a great way to spread a little love. It makes them feel great,which makes you feel great.

Yours in spreading the love,

Thursday, January 7, 2010

How do others perceive me? Grain of salt needed.

Screw Cupid in Seattle has had two meetings so far, with the third coming up tomorrow night. Thanks to all the ladies that have come so far, and for the lively discussion.

One of the things that keeps coming up is the idea of perception - how others perceive us, how we perceive ourselves, and how to make those two views mix into a cohesive blend so that how we perceive ourselves matches how we hope to be perceived. Challenging? Yes.

This is because people's perceptions of others are ALWAYS colored by their past experiences, past relationships and perceptions of themselves. An unbiased opinion is impossible, because opinions (or perceptions), by definition, are always subjective. You either like it or you don't. Sure, there are similar groups of people who have similar opinions and perceptions, but there will always be another group standing up for the opposite side.

I, for instance, often run into other's perceived opinions of me before they even meet me. I have blonde hair. Couple that with the fact that the cover of my dating advice book is bright pink, and I often get pigeonholed as a ditzy girly-girl. This couldn't be further from how I perceive myself, and once people get to know me, they agree. Does this mean I should dye my hair dark (something I did in college as an experiment, and was shocked at how much more often my opinion was taken seriously - more on that another time), and make sure the next derivation of my book has a less girly cover? Of course not. I can't control how others perceive me or stereotype me because for every person who sees me the way I want to be seen, there are 20 more who see the opposite. However, I can control how I perceive me, and as long as I'm happy with that, I'm happy.

That said, this doesn't mean I ignore well-intentioned feedback. Perhaps you've got it all figured out, or perhaps you're like me and you're still growing and learning every day. I just make sure that when I hear feedback - both positive and negative - that I take it with a grain of salt, and remember that other's opinions of me are filtered through their perceptions of the world, and may not have much to do with me at all.

Yours in perception,

Saturday, January 2, 2010

1/1/XX Resolutions

I've always had a mixed relationship with New Years resolutions. On the one hand, it seems silly to only re-evaluate once a year, make some goals and then inevitably forget them by March. On the other hand, there is a natural pull to take a look at your life. After all, the number at the end of the date is changing, and is a very real, very tangible reminder of the passage of time. Plus, unless you live in a cave, it's almost impossible to ignore the self-reinvention propaganda hurling itself at you from every direction. On that note, did you know that January is the biggest self-help book sales month of the year?
Typically, my goals are more of the big, crazy dream variety: appear on Oprah, write a New York Times bestseller, allow the six-pack I know is in there to emerge, and meet Ryan Reynolds. While there is clearly nothing wrong with big, crazy goals, they're not exactly practical.

Since Oprah failed to call me the second my book came out (shocking, I know), I've managed to incorporate some practicality into my New Years resolutions over the last couple years, namely in the form of trying something new that  freaks me out. The logic was that if I force myself into situations where I'm forced to grow as a person (by surviving something I was scared of), then I'll *actually* grow as a person.

The choice last year was scuba diving - while I'm very at home in the water, my ridiculous fear of sharks and the thought of running out of air totally and completely freaked me out. So, I signed up for a certification class. I got through it without losing any limbs or air, (which was great) and learned that my fears were totally unfounded. I try to remember this whenever I'm confronted with something I'm not comfortable with, and have been able to gain a lot of strength from it.

Maybe you're not afraid of anything and already know that you can do whatever you want to do. If this is the case, well done. You're awesome. If, however, you're more like me and have any number of things you're freaked out about, I highly recommend pushing yourself out of your cozy zone and into the cold. You'll be pleasantly surprised as the results.

PS - This year I'm going to try cross-country skiing. It sounds hard, and I've heard there are bears and cougars to worry about. :-)

Yours outside the comfort zone,